We've all been in relationships where people said things,said they meant them and even tried to convince us that their words and intentions were honest and real.But we've all been side-swiped by the lack of integrity behind these so called words and subsequent actions or behavior. There are always unforeseen circumstances that can get between words and actions, but one of the things we need to pay attention to are trends and subtle signals. If you say you are going to be on time and there is a traffic jam,life happens,but if you say you are going to be on time and are always late well,that's a trend. I have no problem with you being late however,stop telling me that you are going to be on time when you know the chances of this happening most of the time are unlikely. Words are more than words,they are the way we communicate feelings,attitudes, beliefs,fears,hopes,dreams and so on,so if you keep telling the world you are going to do whatever it takes to accomplish something and the first time you hit a snag,you give in or up,well what were your real intentions?What gives words their integrity when it comes to interpretation is both your intent and following action and the ability or willingness of the other person to grasp what your real meaning is. It's simple,if you say one thing(stated intention)I'm going to lose weight and you don't,well what do you think your real intention was?You guessed it,to not lose weight.So what's the problem here?Nothing unless you're stated intentions don't impact me. Every day personal and business relationships break down or hit minor or major snags due to the lack of congruence between what is said and what is done.I call this the set-up.This is when we allow others to set us up with their words and we fail to ensure that we both understand and accept their words as being grounded in integrity. Tim Connor,CSP is an internationally renowned sales,management and leadership speaker,trainer and best selling author.Since 1981 he has given over 4000 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales,management,leadership and relationship topics.He is the best selling author of over 70 books includ ing;Soft Sell, That's Life,SOLD,81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales.He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com,704-895-1230 or visit his websites at http://www.timconnor.com. Article Source:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tim_ConnorWe've all been in relationships where people said things, said they meant them and even tried to convince us that their words and intentions were honest and real. But we've all been side-swiped by the lack of integrity behind these so called words and subsequent actions or behavior. There are always unforeseen circumstances that can get between words and actions, but one of the things we need to pay attention to are trends and subtle signals. If you say you are going to be on time and there is a traffic jam, life happens, but if you say you are going to be on time and are always late well, that's a trend. I have no problem with you being late however; stop telling me that you are going to be on time when you know the chances of this happening most of the time are unlikely. Words are more than words, they are the way we communicate feelings, attitudes, beliefs, fears, hopes, dreams and so on, so if you keep telling the world you are going to do whatever it takes to accomplish something and the first time you hit a snag, you give in or up, well what were your real intentions? What gives words their integrity when it comes to interpretation is both your intent and following action and the ability or willingness of the other person to grasp what your real meaning is. It's simple, if you say one thing (stated intention) I'm going to lose weight and you don't, well what do you think your real intention was? You guessed it, to not lose weight. So what's the problem here? Nothing unless you're stated intentions don't impact me. Every day personal and business relationships break down or hit minor or major snags due to the lack of congruence between what is said and what is done. I call this the set-up. This is when we allow others to set us up with their words and we fail to ensure that we both understand and accept their words as being grounded in integrity. Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 4000 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 70 books including; Soft Sell, That's Life, SOLD, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at http://www.timconnor.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Tim_Connor