other person's intellect,temperament and particular interests.A friend is someone who draws out your own best qualities,with whom you sparkle and become more of whatever the friendship draws upon.Your political philosophy assumes more depth,appreciation of a play becomes sharper,taste in food or wine is accumulated,enjoyment of a sport is intensified. And French friendships are compartmentalized.And man may play chess with a friend for thirty years without knowing his political opinions,or he may talk politics with him for a long a time without knowing about his personal life.Different friends fill different niches in each person's life.These friendships are not made part of family life.A friend is not expected to spend evenings being nice to children or courteous to a deaf grandmother.These duties,also serious and enjoined,are primarily for relatives.Men who are friends may meet in a cafe.Intellectual friends may meet in larger groups for evenings of a conversation.Working people may meet at the little bistro where they drink and talk,far from the family.Marriage does not affect such friendships;wives do not have to be taken into account. In the past in France,friendships of this kind seldom were open to any but intellectual women.Since most women's lives centered on their homes,their warmer relations with other women often went back to their girlhood.The special relationship of friendship is based on what the French value most -on the mind,on compatibility of outlook,on vivid awareness of some chosen area of life. Friendship heightens the sense of each person's individuality.Other relationships commanding as great loyalty and devotion have a different meaning.In World War 2 the first resistance groups formed in Paris were built on the foundation of les copains.But significantly,as time went on these little groups,whose lives rested on another's hands,called themselves "families."Where each had a total responsibility for all,it was kinship ties that provided the model.And even today such ties,crossing every line of class and personal interest,remain building on the survivors of these small,secret bands. In Germany,in contrast with France,friendship is much more articulately a matter of feeling. Adolescents,boys and girls,form deeply sentimental attachments,walk and talk together-not so much to polish their wits as to share their hopes and fears and dreams,to form a common front against the world of school and family and to join in a kind of mutual discovery of each other's and their own inner life.Within the family,the closest relationship over a lifetime is between brothers and sisters.Outside the family,men and women find in their closest friends of the same sex the devotion of a sister,the loyalty of a brother.Appropriately,in Germany friends usually are brought into the family.Children call their father's and their mother's friends "uncle"and "aunt." Between French friends,who have chosen each other for the congeniality of their point of view, lively disagreement and sharpness of argument are the breath of life.But for Germans,whose friendships are based on mutuality of feeling,deep disagreement on any subject that matters to both in regarded as a tragedy.Like ties of kinship,ties of friendship are meant to irrevocably binding.Young Germans who come to the United States have great difficulty in establishing such friendship with Americans.We view friendship more tentatively,subject to changes in intensity as people move,change their jobs,many or discover new interests. English friendships follow still a different pattern.Their basis is shared activity.Activities at different stages of life may be of very different kinds-discovering a common interest in school, serving together in the armed forces,taking part in a foreign mission,staying in the same country house during a crisis.In the midst of the activity,whatever it may be,people fall intoother person’s intellect, temperament and particular interests. A friend is someone who draws out your own best qualities, with whom you sparkle and become more of whatever the friendship draws upon. Your political philosophy assumes more depth, appreciation of a play becomes sharper, taste in food or wine is accumulated, enjoyment of a sport is intensified. And French friendships are compartmentalized. And man may play chess with a friend for thirty years without knowing his political opinions, or he may talk politics with him for a long a time without knowing about his personal life. Different friends fill different niches in each person’s life. These friendships are not made part of family life. A friend is not expected to spend evenings being nice to children or courteous to a deaf grandmother. These duties, also serious and enjoined, are primarily for relatives. Men who are friends may meet in a café. Intellectual friends may meet in larger groups for evenings of a conversation. Working people may meet at the little bistro where they drink and talk, far from the family. Marriage does not affect such friendships; wives do not have to be taken into account. In the past in France, friendships of this kind seldom were open to any but intellectual women. Since most women’s lives centered on their homes, their warmer relations with other women often went back to their girlhood. The special relationship of friendship is based on what the French value most –on the mind, on compatibility of outlook, on vivid awareness of some chosen area of life. Friendship heightens the sense of each person’s individuality. Other relationships commanding as great loyalty and devotion have a different meaning. In World War 2 the first resistance groups formed in Paris were built on the foundation of les copains. But significantly, as time went on these little groups, whose lives rested on another’s hands, called themselves “families.” Where each had a total responsibility for all, it was kinship ties that provided the model. And even today such ties, crossing every line of class and personal interest, remain building on the survivors of these small, secret bands. In Germany, in contrast with France, friendship is much more articulately a matter of feeling. Adolescents, boys and girls, form deeply sentimental attachments, walk and talk together –not so much to polish their wits as to share their hopes and fears and dreams, to form a common front against the world of school and family and to join in a kind of mutual discovery of each other’s and their own inner life. Within the family, the closest relationship over a lifetime is between brothers and sisters. Outside the family, men and women find in their closest friends of the same sex the devotion of a sister, the loyalty of a brother. Appropriately, in Germany friends usually are brought into the family. Children call their father’s and their mother’s friends “uncle” and “aunt.” Between French friends, who have chosen each other for the congeniality of their point of view, lively disagreement and sharpness of argument are the breath of life. But for Germans, whose friendships are based on mutuality of feeling, deep disagreement on any subject that matters to both in regarded as a tragedy. Like ties of kinship, ties of friendship are meant to irrevocably binding. Young Germans who come to the United States have great difficulty in establishing such friendship with Americans. We view friendship more tentatively, subject to changes in intensity as people move, change their jobs, many or discover new interests. English friendships follow still a different pattern. Their basis is shared activity. Activities at different stages of life may be of very different kinds-discovering a common interest in school, serving together in the armed forces, taking part in a foreign mission, staying in the same country house during a crisis. In the midst of the activity, whatever it may be, people fall into